“The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.” ~ Albert Einstein
This is one of my very favorite quotes.
Often we all fall into the assumptions life should be lived according to what our religions, traditions or learned moral values teach us but problem is if we follow the crowd and everything what make our life comfortable then one day we’ll end up with losing self , The comfort of knowing what is expected drives most to live a predictable life. We all fit with a routine life what everyone followor you can say , what we learnt from childhood days, but when we become old and gray, regretting all the things we did not do. Many of us day dream about things we are only brave enough to do in our imagination and when it comes to taking that first step to putting that dream to work, we doubt ourselves.
We doubt on our own strength because we allow fear to question our commitment to the crowd; we allow fear to convince us we will be scolded and shunned for taking that first step to walk alone; we assume traditions and moral values are beliefs which cannot be bent or edited to become our own version.
When you are struggling with taking that first step to walk alone, ask yourself if that step is done for LOVE. LOVE for yourself and LOVE for LIFE. Often times we allow ourselves to stay stuck in a bad, miserable or unhealthy situation because we are afraid of losing something which we may get from the crowd like support and love. If you live your LIVE with LOVE as your main driver, you will only reciprocate that energy and more will come right back to you.
“There are old heads in the world who cannot help me by their example or advice to live worthily and satisfactorily to myself; but I believe that it is in my power to elevate myself this very hour above the common level of my life.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
In a crowd, people are like each other and strive to be so. Walking alone, your example is yourself is quit difficult as very few people accept you as you are. You learn to be better than you were yesterday and realize dictating your own life is more beneficial than using someone else as your example to be like. Many influential people in the world walked alone, they realized their potential was only limited when they compared themselves to someone else.
“It’s not what you are that holds you back, It’s what you think you’re not.” ~ Denis Waitley
It is a very well-known fact that if anyone wants to do succeed in life by his/her own effort then they must believe in themselves. We have to believe in ourselves and in our abilities because our inner faith will create our external results. People easily lose faith in themselves when encountering setbacks, failure and fear. When you lack confidence in yourself, others will pick up on that and won’t take you seriously. Not many people live the life that they have always wished to live; they give up on their life goals as soon as they encounter the first setback. One of the main causes for this is that they do not believe in themselves.
“Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard and there is nothing you cannot accomplish.” – Brad Henry
The world that we are living in is extremely competitive and challenging, and people start to doubt themselves and their abilities when they meet with failure and negative people. But a few failures are not the end. You must get back up again.
1. Accept Your Current Situation
The first thing you need to do is start believing in yourself again is to accept your current life situation. You have to make peace with how your life looks at the moment and what led to this situation that you are in. Fighting with your situation won’t do you any good. Being resistant is pointless, so we must accept first. Only then will we have enough energy to change our life.
“First, accept sadness. Realize that without losing, winning isn’t so great.” – Alyssa Milano.
2. Think About Your Past Success
If you are feeling down and out, use your past to get motivated again. Remember the time when you used to just kick butt. When you were awesome and you used to rock it! Put yourself in that past and think about the awesome things that you used to do. Now remember that you can do it again. It is easy to think about the times when you got hurt, but it is just as easy to think about those times when you were successful as well. Use your past to your advantage.
“Every day is a new opportunity. You can build on yesterday’s success or put its failure behind and start over again. That’s the way life is, with a new game every day.”– Bob Feller.
3. Trust Yourself
This is one of the most important things that can help you get that belief and confidence back. All the energy, power, courage, strength and confidence is within you. Spend time with yourself to access it, whether it be through meditation, journalling, or activities that make you trust in yourself again.
“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.” – Rumi
4. Talk with Yourself
We are the ones who create who we will become. We do that every day by our daily beliefs and self-talk. It’s really important that we talk to ourselves and motivate ourselves. We don’t ultimately need others’ approval. You deserve your own self-approval and supportive self-talk.
“The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.”
“If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?” – Shad Helmstetter.
“If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?” – Shad Helmstetter.
5. Don’t Let Fear Stop You
Fear stands for False Evidence that Appears Real. It is the main thing that holds you back from believing in yourself again more than anything else. Face your fears and don’t let them stop you from achieving your goals.
“Always do what you are afraid to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
6. Let Yourself Off the Hook
You have to forgive yourself for any failures or mistakes that you have committed in the past and move on. You have to look at the future and stop living in the past. Be compassionate towards yourself.
7. Go With A Positive Attitude
Having a positive attitude towards everything is the quickest way in achieving that belief and confidence in yourself. Be thankful for whatever you are and whatever you have. Always have a positive approach and see the good in the world.
8. Let a Life Coach Help You
A life coach is a professional that helps, supports, and guides you. A life coach can help you recognize your abilities and skills. They can help you refocus on your goals and remember your past successes. When you’re full of doubt, your life coach will believe in you and help you to believe in yourself again.
9. Keep Moving Forward And Never Look Back
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
There are going to be countless times in your life when you will feel down and you will feel like giving up. The voice in your head will tell you to stop and you will start to doubt yourself, but never listen to that voice. Be strong and keep moving on. Never give up on yourself. You have to keep on going and eventually you will reach your destination. And when you do, you will realize how much more powerful you have become.
10. Let Life Move You
Let your life follow its own natural flow. When you learn to follow your life’s flow, you’ll realize that life is marvellous and precious. If you let your life guide you, it will shower you with its gifts and riches. You have to accept the life you are given and you have to learn to relax. Allow it to let you move in the direction you are meant to go, and you will find success.
“We all have different things that we go through in our everyday life, and it’s really important to know just at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what you face, you know that you’re going to win at the end of the day. You got to believe in yourself. You got to believe in God, know that He’s going to get you through it.” – Kelly Rowland.
Personal Life-
Till now what I got that’s because of my own strength and own effort , even I have seen people don’t make friendship with me just because fear if I’ll get success due to them , some also leave me in my worst period . still I never bow my head before failure. people call me egoistic , of course I am , because I learnt HOW TO WALK ALONE IN MY LIFE . I love to be myself .
Read my whole Biography , This is not only post , read my whole blog posts , you can get know more about me -http://poemstoryshayari.blogspot.in/2013/06/my-hostel-life-from-12th-class-to-whole_4604.html
Now I am 23+ years old and pursing MBA and a long road wait for me to get success in my future life . I have faith on myself I can win in my life race , God is with me J
I always take myself as "ONE WOMAN ARMY"
The following passage, The Way of Walking Alone, was written a week before Musashi died in 1645. This personal manifesto expresses a stringent, honest, and ascetic view of life in 21 powerful principles.
1. Accept everything just the way it is.
2. Do not seek pleasure for its own sake.
3. Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.
4. Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.
5. Be detached from desire your whole life.
6. Do not regret what you have done.
7. Never be jealous.
8. Never let yourself be saddened by a separation.
9. Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others.
10. Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love.
11. In all things, have no preferences.
12. Be indifferent to where you live.
13. Do not pursue the taste of good food. [Do not overindulge.]
14. Do not hold on to possessions you no longer need.
15. Do not act following customary beliefs.
16. Do not collect weapons or practice with weapons beyond what is useful.
17. Do not fear death.
18. Do not seek to possess either goods or fiefs for your old age.
19. Respect Buddha and the gods without counting on their help.[Respect the belief systems of others.]
20. You may abandon your own body but you must preserve your honor.
21. Never stray from the way.
